I've been reading posts about how to share your wam experience with a partner (feeling the water, so to say), I thought about a tame way to do it. Play the game "Would You Rather" with one you made up. Begin with very mild & basic ones and then, slowly introduce more as you see fit. Here's a few..
Would you rather... drink Pepsi or Coke? eat a hamburger or pizza? (gradually become more interesting) be tied up naked or be thrown in a pool with clothes on? be pied in the face or throw a pie at someone?
add your own and see where it goes! My husband knows so I don't have to worry about that anymore but if he didn't, this would be the route I go!
Hmm, I'm not sure how far down "the talk" you are here. If you have discussed kinks and WAM then this is great, but if this is the first time you have mentioned kinks and you are testing the water, this just feels sneaky to me and I would be creeped out if someone tried to test the waters with me in such a way.
I understand totally the feelings of talking to a partner about various kinks, the fear, anxiety etc, but I find honesty is always the best policy and have always have good feedback (from "sounds like fun" to "thanks for being honest, not my thing" to "yuck, not a chance but thanks for the information").
Personally with each new partner, I bring up the subject and see how they feel about kinks in general. If it is a no-go then I don't need to go any further, though I do tell them I have "something" that interests me. If they want to hear more then I give them an option of talking about it or I have a document of my thoughts and feelings that I have written over the years for them to read at their leisure.
Sharing is difficult and stressful. When I found myself divorced and wondering how I would ever share this side of myself with anyone else, I ended up writing a short book to help others with what I was sure is a typical problem. I wanted to present it in a way that, for lack of a better word, legitimized our fetish, along with helping people who are new to WAM with tips, tricks, and ideas. I don't know if I accomplished that, but those were the intentions. For what it's worth, I'm currently dating someone who throughly embraces my sploshing kink.
It's available on Amazon in ebook and paperback if you need something to leave something on his nightstand.
First of all, it's nice to see a woman who's into it! I would say that wetlook is the simplest way to start. Ask you partner if she's ever gotten wet with her clothes on, and see how she reacts. Perhaps you can see if she would be willing to take a shower, or a bath, with her clothes on.
Hmm... we have several other threads about this topic each worded slightly differently. I highly recommend you check these out for further discussion and ideas.